You aren’t cool because you’re in a clique

Oh my fucking god.

You can only complain about people forming cliques if YOU aren’t a part of the biggest clique.

Damn. Stop trying to fucking defend how much of an asshole you are.

People don’t dislike you all because you’re in a clique, they dislike you because you treat everyone not in your group like shit.

You aren’t fucking better than everyone. You know you aren’t, that’s why you so desperately need the comfort of an exclusive group.

Goddamn.

I miss who you were before you tried to find yourself and fill your loneliness in the negativity of this group.

Judgment kills empathy. And empathy is what fuels trust and intimacy. How can we walk in others’ shoes when we’re busy judging those shoes? It starts with showing compassion for ourselves. Only when we feel comfortable with our own choices — and embrace our own imperfections — will we stop feeling the driving need to criticize others.

Brene Brown (via liquid-diamonds-flowing)

That feeling you get when you finally realize someone doesn’t deserve your time or thoughts. And you’re free.

Now I understand feeling powerful after telling someone exactly what you think of them. Its a dangerous kind of high you have to be careful with.

Some people might start acting cocky after telling someone off.

But I know never to be too certain of myself. Most people are essentially good, and most people can change. So I want to be good to people and keep faith that they’ll change.

We absolutely must leave room for doubt or there is no progress and there is no learning. There is no learning without having to pose a question. And a question requires doubt. People search for certainty. But there is no certainty. People are terrified — how can you live and not know? It is not odd at all. You only think you know, as a matter of fact. And most of your actions are based on incomplete knowledge and you really don’t know what it is all about, or what the purpose of the world is, or know a great deal of other things. It is possible to live and not know.

Richard Feynman, born on May 11, 1918, on the role of scientific culture in modern society